It's Not Fair!
An excerpt from Let's Just Laugh at That For Kids
by Steve Backlund
“Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank Him for all He has done." Philippians 4:6
Have you ever thought you don’t get as much as others do? Or do you believe "My parents let my brothers and sisters do more than me." Or you think "My friends get more than I do" or "The teacher gives other people special jobs, and I never get to be chosen!” As you think about these things, the warning light in your mind may begin to flash. “What about me?!” You feel something rising inside of you. Now it’s fighting to get out of your mouth, and then these words cannot be held in any longer: “It’s not fair!” As you say this, the siren sounds. Quick action is required. You pull out your weapon of choice — the Laughter Boots. You slip them on your feet and start stomping that lie to dust!
If we are only looking for things to be equal, life will never seem fair. There are several Bible stories that may not seem fair to us. One is when David goes to battle with 600 hundred men (1 Samuel 30). The battle is so long and hard that 200 hundred men had to rest by a stream. They left the others to fight. Later, the 400 men came back victorious. David asked for the treasure they won to be shared between the 600 men. Some of the fighters may have asked, “Why should these lazy men get anything?” They complained because they had done the work while the others rested. Still, David demanded it to be shared evenly. Fair does not always mean equal. Even Jesus didn’t spend the same amount of time with each of His disciples, but He knew what they needed. Jesus had twelve disciples, but He spent more time with the three. If we look at what we don’t have, life will never seem fair. Jesus might not give us what someone else has, but He always gives us what we need.
What Can I Say?
• God always has the best for me.
• My life is special and unique. It will look different than anyone else’s.
• I choose to think more about what I have than what I want.
What Can I Do?
• Refuse to compare – Comparing yourself to another person can steal your joy. Instead, don’t worry about anything, but pray about everything (Philippians 4:6-7). Tell God what you need, and thank Him for all He has done. You will be amazed at how much better things will be.
• Treat people well – It starts with you. You get to change your world by treating people around you with honor (Luke 6:31). As you do this, you will often find people treating you more fairly. If you are waiting on someone else to treat you right first, then fairness may never happen. What is one thing you can do today to treat someone else well? Consider doing something like putting an encouraging note around your family’s dinner plates or on their pillows before bed.
• Celebrate the good stuff – Do a happy dance over something you are grateful for. Sometimes we can have the most amazing things right in front of us and not realize what we have. If you’re with family and friends, go ahead and have a party. Blow up balloons and put up decorations. There are plenty of things to celebrate. Invite your parents to enjoy the party with you.
ABOUT STEVE BACKLUN
Steve Backlund was a senior pastor for seventeen years before joining the team at Bethel Church in Redding, CA in 2008. Steve is a leader developer, joy activist, a revivalist teacher, and as Senior Associate Director, is a key part of the Global Legacy (a ministry of Bethel Church) leadership team. He travels extensively throughout the world encouraging churches and leaders and has authored a number of books.