11 More Disempowering Words Not to Use

11 More Disempowering Words Not to Use

11 More Disempowering Words Not to Use

by Steve Backlund


Here is the Part 2 excerpt from Steve’s new book The Culture of Empowerment: How to Champion People with eleven more disempowering words not to use. It is from the chapter “Empowering Language.” Missed Part 1? Click here to read!


11 More Disempowering Words

  1. Words spoken from frustration – “God’s presence won’t manifest because of the people in the back who are talking. Stop talking, and start loving God!!!!”
  2. Manipulation words – “Mom, I hate you” or “If you really loved me, you would…“ or “If you don’t give to our ministry in the next 30 minutes, you will miss a radical blessing from God.”
  3. Controlling words – “You don’t want to see me mad, so you better do this” or “If you leave our church, you will be out of the will of God.” Also, the overuse of the following phrases would tend to be controlling as well: “You must do…” “you need to…” and “you should…”
  4. Assumption words – “All of you know the story of Jonathan and David.”
  5. Condescending words – “I am not sure if you have heard of the Apostle Paul, but he made a big difference in the Bible.”
  6. “You are not capable of understanding what you need” words (often spoken by elites in the church, government, and education) – “You are not capable of really understanding what is best.”
  7. Projection words – Giving the impression that what we are experiencing is what everyone else is experiencing too. “You know when someone doesn’t follow through and you feel disappointed and get upset…”
  8. Hindering words – People who don’t think their words are powerful will more frequently say things like, “My back is killing me,” or “That is driving me crazy.”
  9. Overusing “you” phrases instead of “we” phrases – “You need to read the Bible” versus “We need to read the Bible.”
  10. You are stupid words – “I can’t believe you did not know how to do that.”
  11. Insecure or false humility words – “I know I am not smart enough to really contribute to this conversation, but I think you should do this.”


“Nothing happens in the Kingdom unless a declaration is made.”

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Steve Backlund was a senior pastor for seventeen years before joining the team at Bethel Church in Redding, CA in 2008. Steve is a leader developer, joy activist, a revivalist teacher, and as Senior Associate Director, is a key part of the Global Legacy (a ministry of Bethel Church) leadership team. He travels extensively throughout the world encouraging churches and leaders and has authored a number of books.

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